Thread: really need advice

ok,

about a month or so ago, i split up with my boyfriend of 6 months, we were engaged, spent a beautiful holiday together, i was madly in love, but by the end of the relationship, i felt like i was being treated like a housewife, so i ended it. I was strong for a while, even started seeing somebody else, this somebody else acted quite violent towards me, so i ended that..

i went to my friends funeral friday, which was incredibly difficult, but i saw my ex, who i was with for 6 months, and seeing him again, made me realise how much i love him, every single detail about him, so many things happened between us its impossible not to miss him. I spoke to him tonight, and told him how I feel, and i know i made the ex=wankers thread, but i was annoyed because he had my stuff lol. but now, everything i felt for him, has come flooding back.

I spoke to him tonight, and he told me that he still has those feelings, and they came back by seeing me again on friday, he says he needs time to think about us, because he doesn't want to get hurt again, but in all honesty, im a mess without him, i havent eaten, haven't slept..

basically, has anyone else been through this, and how did they cope, or what did they do? any advice would be brilliant,

sorry for the essay, but yeah... had to be said.

Well being at the funeral made you realise that life is short, and you should spend your time here being happy.
You'd regret it a hell of a lot more if you didn't give it another shot with him, then if you don't attempt it.
In most cases, it's always advised against getting back with the ex, but you sound like you really can't be without him. I'd say give it another go, but take it slowly, maybe starting afresh to when it was newish and let the feelings fade back gradually.

Even if it doesn't work out in the way you want it to, at least you can say you gave it a go and that it wasn't meant to be.

well, I feel that because you were at a funeral, you probably needed to be comforted. When people are in need of consolement, they often turn to what is familiar for support.

I wouldn't rush into things to quickly. You broke up with your ex for a reason. Those negative feelings could come back when you are done being comforted, for lack of a better word. To me it sounds like you move quickly and act on your feelings, (since you got engaged so young and after not long of dating), but I think it can end up getting you in trouble in the long run. Just be careful, and explore what you need to.

thanks guys, both of your advice sounds wicked..

Latest info, I met up with him yesterday, just walked around the park, went to some fireworks and chilled at my house... had a wonderful chat, and he feels exactly the same way I do, he's all ive thought about, we both agreed that rushing things is what got us in trouble the first time, so we're going to take things slowly, see how they pan out..

thank you for your advice! x

Give it another go if you really do need him, but just be aware things could easily slip back to how they were before you broke up.

There was a reason you left him and people don't often change(most of the time they just say they have.) So you'll most probably get treated like a housewife again.

A lot of people ask me things like this. "i love him but i just want him to change" If you love him, and he changes, will he still be the person you love?

Ive learnt the hard way that trying again with ex's is a bad idea. It seems great at the start but after a while all the reasons why you broke up with them to begin with come back.

As much as I love him, I saw his bro out clubbing last night, I found out some home truths! I sat up all night till 8am this morning listening to all the truths behind things that happened between me and him, I wasn't that upset oddly enough, I had a wicked night clubbing so yah, boohoo is all i can say.