How do I get over this girl?
So let me tell you my story, you can skip through some parts if you want I just need advice. So I really like this girl and she really likes me back, but she is "in love" with her ex boyfriend who she probably got back together with last night. She may have some problems, self esteem issue and cheats anytime someone else gives her attention. I can't help the way I feel and she told me we should quit talking last night because she can't get over her xbf even though it has only been a couple weeks. she quit talking to him completely and she seemed like she was the happiest person in the world when it was just me and her but now he started texting her again. She's also afraid she'll hurt me because she always cheats and that this will only be a high school thing because she will be in college next year and I will be a junior but her xbf will be able to stay with her and stuff. I'm sure I could make it work with her and I told her if things don't work out with her xbf then I will be willing to pick up where we left off. But until then I need to get over her, because I don't think that time will ever come. I am a nice guy so she doesn't want to hurt me so I'm not sure we will ever work out. I have never fallen for someone so hard and she said she never expected to like me so much, but she was in a bad relationship before and she had to get a restraining order over it. I think that the guy she had to get a restraining order over kind of messed up the way she thinks about things and she should seek help from a professional but she refuses to while she lives with her parents, I will keep trying to help her but I don't know what to do she is too stubborn for that. She wants me to help her with her problems but she doesn't want help at the same time. I don't know if I can be friends with her because I feel too strongly for her. We were talking about just texting and maybe talking on the phone but not making out and stuff like we do and if her and her xbf don't work and she can get over him then we could give it a try. But her xbf has dealt with her kissing other guys, I think they've broke up like four times but they always get back together. I don't know, I think it's high school love even though one of them is an adult and the other will be next year but I think they are to young to know if they have found 'the one' but I can't convince her of anything. I don't know what to do I'm just tired of feeling like ****. I try to talk to other girls but only feels good while I'm talking to them. I know it has been one night but I really want to get over her so I don't feel so bad. I will see her in class tomorrow too and I don't know what I'm going to do. Does anyone have any advice? I really need some please help, thank you.
Well, to me it sounds like she needs to figure out her issues before anything else happens between the two of you. Be thankful that she isn't wanting to drag you along while she tries to work it out with her ex. As far as getting over her, it is hard as Hell to do, but don't give up. The worst thing you can do is sit around and mope. I did that for 2 years and to be completely honest, I still have feelings for the same guy. I think that you shouldn't "get over her" because if you care about her that much, it isn't going to happen, but put her at the back of your mind. See where things go, talk to other people and try your best to stay positive and happy. I have been through both your and her side of things, so I can relate to the both of you. I think that you need to let her work things out on her own, but if she asks for help or advice, be there to give it. You seem like a really great guy. I hope that I helped at least a little bit and that things will work out for you. Best of luck! (:
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